Okay, now i got the top 5 emotional needs of man and woman (in context of marriage) jotted down. Kong Hee shared this based on a book that he read, so this is not necessarily biblical, and not necessarily the case for every person. Humans are special anyway.
Women's Emotional Needs:
1. Affection- treat them like your most precious, caress them
2. Conversation- they have 30,000 words they need to use everyday, so talk to them.
3. Honesty and openness- yes, tell them everything, no secret.
4. Financial support- got it?
5. Family commitment- take part in educating the child, spend time with your family.
Yeah.. the ladies were nodding their heads as Kong Hee went thru their needs.
Men's Emotional Needs:
1. Sexual Fulfillment- ehem.. believe it.
2. Recreational Companionship- when we are done talking, can we play PS3 together?
3. Attractive spouse- yeah, God looks into the heart but you aren't marrying God
4. Domestic support- honey, where's my tie?
5. Admiration- yeah, we needs to be hero. so stop telling us that other guys are better at driving.
and as some guys tried hard to hide their satisfied smiles, the ladies are shaking their heads and thinking, "that's so wrong, so unreasonable. my husband won't be like that."
you see.. the main point is not whether your top 5 (or your spouse's) emotional needs match the lists above.
the main point is that men and women have different emotional needs.
and as much as the women think the men' needs are difficult and unreasonable,
the same goes for the men.
i can't say much about everyone else,
but for some of the troubled couples i happen to know very well
(they are married for at least 10 years),
their problems would be solved if they acknowledge each others' needs and try to fulfill them, instead of deeming it unreasonable.
Women's Emotional Needs:
1. Affection- treat them like your most precious, caress them
2. Conversation- they have 30,000 words they need to use everyday, so talk to them.
3. Honesty and openness- yes, tell them everything, no secret.
4. Financial support- got it?
5. Family commitment- take part in educating the child, spend time with your family.
Yeah.. the ladies were nodding their heads as Kong Hee went thru their needs.
Men's Emotional Needs:
1. Sexual Fulfillment- ehem.. believe it.
2. Recreational Companionship- when we are done talking, can we play PS3 together?
3. Attractive spouse- yeah, God looks into the heart but you aren't marrying God
4. Domestic support- honey, where's my tie?
5. Admiration- yeah, we needs to be hero. so stop telling us that other guys are better at driving.
and as some guys tried hard to hide their satisfied smiles, the ladies are shaking their heads and thinking, "that's so wrong, so unreasonable. my husband won't be like that."
you see.. the main point is not whether your top 5 (or your spouse's) emotional needs match the lists above.
the main point is that men and women have different emotional needs.
and as much as the women think the men' needs are difficult and unreasonable,
the same goes for the men.
i can't say much about everyone else,
but for some of the troubled couples i happen to know very well
(they are married for at least 10 years),
their problems would be solved if they acknowledge each others' needs and try to fulfill them, instead of deeming it unreasonable.
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