i wasn't around the comp yesterday n returning only to find a mail thread on 'how guyz should treat galz in a gentleman way', discussed by my FA mates.
i want to learn harder in 2006 not to say it out, not to get involved in argumentation, whenever possible. so i didn't participate.
so i think.. let each have their own opinion. no need to try convincing whoever else, life will teach us the ultimate lesson.
as for me.. i'd just say what i think to this blog.
there was one very funny part in the thread, the galz say 'guyz should offer to help the galz when they r bringing stuff. but not handbag.. that was stupid for guy to bring the girl's handbag'. i think, handbag is just stuff. why the discrimination? coz guyz look lame carrying girl's handbag? if that public image is the problem, then probably the guys would offer to carry other stuff for the sake of public image too, not bcoz they care. well they do care probably; they care about their own image. if galz are impressed with that, i will rest my case.
now you might say.. handbag is not heavy anyway, so why need help? if so, then it's not just about handbag. it's also about opening the car's doors and many other doors which take no great effort to do. and there is still many other so-called 'gentleman rules' that i believe make the women look so delicate and weak.
so how do you define the line between being a gentleman and a hypocrite?
i don't know. but as for me, i think u just have to be true to yourself. if you care, and you think that gal need your help, then do so. if she asks for your help, help her if that's what heart want to do. don't do everything for galz for the sake of that 'gentleman status', that's hypocrite.
do you realize when a pretty gal ask for help? all the guyz would offer their hands. and when it's a GUY who ask for help, you don't see such things. is that gentleman?
i am sorry to me that is not. if that is, then i'd rather erase that word 'gentleman' from my vocab.
i live by this principle only: "you are given strength and wisdom to protect and help the needy, whoever that person is"
of course it's true that generally galz are weaker physically and thus in many cases, the needy. what i am trying to say is, simply, use your wisdom and be true to your heart. do not discriminate in offering your hands. any other opinion that force you to do against that is, i believe, insignificant.
if all these make me fall into the non-gentleman-type, so be it.
i want to learn harder in 2006 not to say it out, not to get involved in argumentation, whenever possible. so i didn't participate.
so i think.. let each have their own opinion. no need to try convincing whoever else, life will teach us the ultimate lesson.
as for me.. i'd just say what i think to this blog.
there was one very funny part in the thread, the galz say 'guyz should offer to help the galz when they r bringing stuff. but not handbag.. that was stupid for guy to bring the girl's handbag'. i think, handbag is just stuff. why the discrimination? coz guyz look lame carrying girl's handbag? if that public image is the problem, then probably the guys would offer to carry other stuff for the sake of public image too, not bcoz they care. well they do care probably; they care about their own image. if galz are impressed with that, i will rest my case.
now you might say.. handbag is not heavy anyway, so why need help? if so, then it's not just about handbag. it's also about opening the car's doors and many other doors which take no great effort to do. and there is still many other so-called 'gentleman rules' that i believe make the women look so delicate and weak.
so how do you define the line between being a gentleman and a hypocrite?
i don't know. but as for me, i think u just have to be true to yourself. if you care, and you think that gal need your help, then do so. if she asks for your help, help her if that's what heart want to do. don't do everything for galz for the sake of that 'gentleman status', that's hypocrite.
do you realize when a pretty gal ask for help? all the guyz would offer their hands. and when it's a GUY who ask for help, you don't see such things. is that gentleman?
i am sorry to me that is not. if that is, then i'd rather erase that word 'gentleman' from my vocab.
i live by this principle only: "you are given strength and wisdom to protect and help the needy, whoever that person is"
of course it's true that generally galz are weaker physically and thus in many cases, the needy. what i am trying to say is, simply, use your wisdom and be true to your heart. do not discriminate in offering your hands. any other opinion that force you to do against that is, i believe, insignificant.
if all these make me fall into the non-gentleman-type, so be it.
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