Finishing off (or rather, fully rewriting) the entry that I intended to post yesterday.
So in between bombie's call and her arrival with andreas at plasing,
couple of things happened.
and I was thinking bout some stuff I think worth writing.
there was, twice, call from my 80s year old distant relative who was on a noble but frankly, unnecessary matchmaking mission.
then there was this thought about wedding guest list.
think I got to make disclaimer 1st.. I don't have to have issue with gay for me to write about gay.
I just have to think that it's worth writing.
got it?
so.. back to the point.
my theory is.. if anything, the inclusion or exclusion of your name in an old time friend's wedding guest list is the pass/fail benchmark of your relationship with the person thru out the years.
of course when you 'pass', you also have first class honors, 2nd class, or merit.
which benchmarks are harder to define.
and btw.. if you are now on an active terms with that friend, this theory also doesn't count.
coz as we know most relationships are functional.
but if you are on active terms and yet you are not in.. hmm..
it probably means the bride knows your plan of running away with the groom.
so anyway.. i was touched when one of my high school friends invited me to her wedding earlier this month.
Unfortunately I could only fly back to Jakarta a day after her wedding.
we have not spoken, let alone met, for sooo long.
i served no function in her present life yet in her mind and mine, we are still good friends.
I think that's.. nice.
that despite the silence over the years,
when it's time to share one of our happiest moments in life,
we remember to share a piece of it with that good ol' friend.
oh btw.. Hugo is ^___^
So in between bombie's call and her arrival with andreas at plasing,
couple of things happened.
and I was thinking bout some stuff I think worth writing.
there was, twice, call from my 80s year old distant relative who was on a noble but frankly, unnecessary matchmaking mission.
then there was this thought about wedding guest list.
think I got to make disclaimer 1st.. I don't have to have issue with gay for me to write about gay.
I just have to think that it's worth writing.
got it?
so.. back to the point.
my theory is.. if anything, the inclusion or exclusion of your name in an old time friend's wedding guest list is the pass/fail benchmark of your relationship with the person thru out the years.
of course when you 'pass', you also have first class honors, 2nd class, or merit.
which benchmarks are harder to define.
and btw.. if you are now on an active terms with that friend, this theory also doesn't count.
coz as we know most relationships are functional.
but if you are on active terms and yet you are not in.. hmm..
it probably means the bride knows your plan of running away with the groom.
so anyway.. i was touched when one of my high school friends invited me to her wedding earlier this month.
Unfortunately I could only fly back to Jakarta a day after her wedding.
we have not spoken, let alone met, for sooo long.
i served no function in her present life yet in her mind and mine, we are still good friends.
I think that's.. nice.
that despite the silence over the years,
when it's time to share one of our happiest moments in life,
we remember to share a piece of it with that good ol' friend.
oh btw.. Hugo is ^___^
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