So I came across this in Path.
Of course.. a sister path it.
Naturally.. some other sisters nod frantically in agreement.
"If he hurts you and hinders your walk with God, remove him ..".
That part is fine. Damn fine!
But what about the analogy?
"If your shoes are hurting your feet.."
Well.. I wonder why we never do a "brother to brother" version.
Coz you see.. we hate shoes that hurt us too, if not more.
While ladies would put up with the pain of wearing high heels, many of us would give up.
But imagine.. if we, the guys, also think of finding life partner in the same manner, the whole universe will be looking for that 'right shoes'.Nobody will take the 'shoes role'. That won't do.
Yet.. even if I were to take the shoes role.. I can't imagine finding the "right pair of feet" being the equivalent of finding my right partner.
Unless I am marrying Cinderella. So.. this shoes analogy just doesn't make sense to me either way.
Truth is.. this is never about we (guys) and them (ladies). At least to me.
If it hurts, remove it. If it doesn't fit you right, remove it. If it starts to hurt, remove it.
Something about these ideas intrigued me. And that's what people are preaching nowadays.
We are told to fight for our dream no matter how hard it seems at the beginning.
But when it comes to someone we love, we take him/her off?
We accept that our parents could have difference and argument all day and yet care for each other deeply.
And we say.. that's family.
But when it comes to finding our life partner, we look for the one that fit us just right?
That.. to me.. is.. er...how shall we put it? self-centered, I guess.
You may say.. no that's not what finding the one that fit us right means.
Etc etc.. and then point to the God part which as I said, was fine.
But the way recent relationship 'teaching' goes.. it inevitably sends the message that says:
if it hurts and it doesn't fit you just right, find another one.
This world.. it's full of beautiful stories. Of couples who love each other beyond 'measure'.
Of love that is marked by sacrifice rater than 'size'. Commitment rather than 'comfort'.
And to end this.. Did we forget what our God's profession is?
No.. not shoemaker. He is the potter.
And what are we?
Clay.
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